Self-Esteem and Writing

Self-Esteem and Writing We resist things for a number of reasons. We fear failure, but there are also people who fear success. What if they turn out to have a talent for writing, but are only a "One Book Wonder"? What if they can never top what they have created? � The Internal/Infernal Editor When you are resisting something, how do you avoid doing it? Do you check your email? Do you scrub the bathroom floor with a toothbrush? Do you do all the tasks that you "simply must do" before you sit down to write? If so, you are your own worst enemy.

What is Your Biggest Barrier to Writing?

When you make a promise to yourself, you need to keep it. If you promise yourself that you will get your writing done, then keep that promise! Make writing your priority and get it done first!

Sometimes we just have to get out of our way when we write, and simply try to get the material down on paper. In this article, we will touch on our internal resistance to writing, delve deeper into the role our internal editor plays as we write and ways to overcome these problems.

A priority should be done before anything else.

Resistance

Which would you prefer? Do you want to punish yourself when you find yourself resisting your writing time? What do you think will happen then? Chances are you already finding writing painful at times, making it even more painful by punishing yourself for not getting something done will make it even more painful, and you will resist and avoid it even more.

That means that we need to hear a positive reinforcement over one million times in order to overcome the number of times we've heard things like:

In this way, you will avoid building taller and stronger walls of resistance. You will, instead, make your writing sessions a pleasure, something to look forward to. By rewarding yourself rather than berating or punishing yourself, you will get the result you are looking for. You will end up with a lot more pages of writing than you had when you started.

Our society functions on negative reinforcement and negative thoughts. This is sad, but you really only have control over yourself, so first change the expectations you have of yourself. Diminish your resistance to writing by honoring yourself, your abilities, your efforts. Your reward will be material that is written much faster than you ever thought possible.

� "No, you'll never be successful."

The Internal/Infernal Editor

We resist things for a number of reasons. We fear failure, but there are also people who fear success. What if they turn out to have a talent for writing, but are only a "One Book Wonder"? What if they can never top what they have created?

Your internal editor says things like, "Who is going to read this garbage?", "You don't know what you're talking about", or even more subtle derogatory statements such as, "Are you sure that is what you want to say?"

When you are resisting something, how do you avoid doing it? Do you check your email? Do you scrub the bathroom floor with a toothbrush? Do you do all the tasks that you "simply must do" before you sit down to write?

Don't be so willing to give this type of power over to anyone.

When we allow ourselves to establish other priorities over tasks we need to do, in this case, writing, we are practicing enabling behavior. That is, we provide excuses to not do that which must be done. Excuses are exactly that, they are an avoidance behavior to prevent us from working.

You could even try writing: "Dear Internal Editor, would you please go on vacation for a little while so that I can get this information down? Don't worry. I'll need you when the time comes to edit the work. We work really well as a team when you let me get the information down first, and then you help me edit. But, for now, you need to leave me alone."

This may seem rather silly, but the technique can work.

A priority should be done before anything else.

The same is true for writing. If you can freewrite long enough to get your logical and analytical part of your brain to shut down, you're in business, you will be able to write without fear of criticism from your own brain.

Which would you prefer? Do you want to punish yourself when you find yourself resisting your writing time? What do you think will happen then? Chances are you already finding writing painful at times, making it even more painful by punishing yourself for not getting something done will make it even more painful, and you will resist and avoid it even more.

Changing perspective is one way to make a breakthrough when you're writing, especially when you feel blocked, or feel resistance building.

In this way, you will avoid building taller and stronger walls of resistance. You will, instead, make your writing sessions a pleasure, something to look forward to. By rewarding yourself rather than berating or punishing yourself, you will get the result you are looking for. You will end up with a lot more pages of writing than you had when you started.

Our society functions on negative reinforcement and negative thoughts. This is sad, but you really only have control over yourself, so first change the expectations you have of yourself. Diminish your resistance to writing by honoring yourself, your abilities, your efforts. Your reward will be material that is written much faster than you ever thought possible.

Sometimes you have to be playful when you're trying to make a breakthrough, and "imagining" someone across from you as you talk or write falls into that "playful" category.

Don't say you've never imagined your audience before�sure you have, especially when you are struggling to get something written. You're imagining a mean, hostile audience who is ready to judge you and your material the instant the pen hits the paper. Instead of allowing that negative audience to exist in your mind, create a positive audience instead. If a whole audience is still too intimidating, limit it to one or two people, as if you were having coffee with them.

That Internal/Infernal Editor�there is much to say about this individual. Your internal editor, as you know, is that voice inside your head that begins judging what you're doing just about as soon as pen hits the paper, or your fingers hit the keyboard. That's why it is important to learn to do your freewriting exercises in order to silence your internal editor.

Your internal editor says things like, "Who is going to read this garbage?", "You don't know what you're talking about", or even more subtle derogatory statements such as, "Are you sure that is what you want to say?"

When you change your perspective from one where you're standing alone on a stage under a hot spotlight to a much more pleasant one where you're sharing coffee or drinks with some friends and helping them out with a problem the resistance you have to the writing changes dramatically. The task is no longer as intimidating as it once was.
 

Don't be so willing to give this type of power over to anyone.

Negativity comes from all around us. Here's one of the most important tips you'll ever receive when it comes to working on a dream.

You could even try writing: "Dear Internal Editor, would you please go on vacation for a little while so that I can get this information down? Don't worry. I'll need you when the time comes to edit the work. We work really well as a team when you let me get the information down first, and then you help me edit. But, for now, you need to leave me alone."

Many negative people who don't even know what they're talking about often feel they have the right to give you information.

If you have read the book Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain, you may be familiar with the doodling exercise that is designed to disconnect the judgment portion of your brain from what you are trying to draw. Take a piece of paper and pencil and start the draw the lines of your non-drawing hand. The trick is that you cannot look at your paper, you can only look at the palm of the hand that you are drawing. You need to do this for at least five minutes. It takes your brain that long to disconnect from its judgment of what you're drawing, realizing that all you're doing is doodling, and that it doesn't need to be on guard for now. That's when your very best drawing can be done.

The same is true for writing. If you can freewrite long enough to get your logical and analytical part of your brain to shut down, you're in business, you will be able to write without fear of criticism from your own brain.

Changing Perspective

Changing perspective is one way to make a breakthrough when you're writing, especially when you feel blocked, or feel resistance building.

When we sit down to write, we first believe we're writing for ourselves, and then we consider that there is some form of critical judgmental audience who is out there just waiting for us to make a mistake. I'm not sure why this is, but most people who write have confided that this is the case for them.

But, if you change your perspective, and pretend that rather than writing for a critical audience, you have one person in front of you who really needs the material that you're sharing. Picture this person in front of you. To them, you are the expert, the one who can solve their problems.

Sometimes you have to be playful when you're trying to make a breakthrough, and "imagining" someone across from you as you talk or write falls into that "playful" category.

Don't say you've never imagined your audience before�sure you have, especially when you are struggling to get something written. You're imagining a mean, hostile audience who is ready to judge you and your material the instant the pen hits the paper. Instead of allowing that negative audience to exist in your mind, create a positive audience instead. If a whole audience is still too intimidating, limit it to one or two people, as if you were having coffee with them.

Then, you talk to this person or these people like a friend. They have a problem and you have an answer. By changing your perspective this way, you suddenly take the pressure off yourself because now you're not being required to perform. You're helping someone out of a jam. Who doesn't like to be helpful?

Most things people read are "how-to" articles, brochures, and books. They're set up by stating the problem and then providing the solution. You're giving them the information they need in order to solve their problem.

When you change your perspective from one where you're standing alone on a stage under a hot spotlight to a much more pleasant one where you're sharing coffee or drinks with some friends and helping them out with a problem the resistance you have to the writing changes dramatically. The task is no longer as intimidating as it once was.
 

Avoid Negativity

Negativity comes from all around us. Here's one of the most important tips you'll ever receive when it comes to working on a dream.

Avoid spending time around negative people.

Many negative people who don't even know what they're talking about often feel they have the right to give you information.

If the person who is giving you advice has never written a book, article, paper, or whatever it is that you're trying to write, don't listen to them for advice. Negative people only wish to prove to you that you cannot do it.